6: The Stigma of Divorce
Brian Mayer discusses several area that contribute to the stigma of divorce. There can be much shame and guilt when it comes to divorce and how we view ourselves. We will talk about how being vulnerable is actually a good thing and can help reduce our shame. We hope you enjoy today’s message. For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com Today's Goodies Brian discusses the direction of the show. He plans to have all sorts of great topics and guests, including from a spiritual and a more scientific research based approach as well. Shame is very prevalent issue when it comes to divorce. It is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. Vulnerability is the greatest sign of courage according to Brene Brown. It means putting yourself out there in spite of what happened in the past. She also says it is the thing that fuels innovation, change, and creativity. Shame and Guilt are hard to eliminate completely. The goal is should be to obtain power over but to not necessarily to try to make it vanish Feelings of Failure - The ultimate feeling of failure was had by Princess Diana and Prince Charles who divorced after a true fairy tale wedding and marriage. While they are royalty, they are after all humans who had an immense pressure on them to live that out. Feeling Less Than You Are - The average time it takes to feel like ourselves again after a divorce is about 4 years. Feeling Different is another reason that dealing with the stigma of divorce is hard. It can be tough to live physically and mentally in a world that seems to cater more toward initial marriages and intact families. Resources Mentioned Brene Brown TED Talk called “Listening to Shame”: I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough" by Brene Brown Article: How divorce still carries a stigma in the 21st century Thanks For Listening! With so many things that take time in our lives, I more grateful than you know that you took time to listen to this podcast episode. If you liked this episode and believe that it would be beneficial to a friend, family member, or colleague, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. It would be extremely helpful, it you would consider leaving a rating and review on Apple devices at iTunes or on Android devices at Google Play as it will help the podcast reach others who need help in rebuilding life and relationships The Remarried Life Facebook Group is a community of people just like you who get and give support. Please join today!
