The STARS method
In this special bonus episode, Dr. Evelin Dacker explains the STARS method she created. It’s an easy-to-remember acronym that will help you begin conversations leading to great, consensual sex. But I don’t want you to just get the theory behind the conversation, I want you to hear it in practice! So I invited my friend Ray to join me for a sample STARS conversation that you’ll get to hear about halfway through this episode. 1:26 – What is sex positivity? 4:00 – The lack of conversation about sex in the medical profession 5:00 – An overview of what the letters in STARS stand for 6:50 – Leah’s experience with STARS Breaking down the STARS conversation: 9:07 – STI Status 10:32 – Turn Ons 11:13 – Avoids 12:18 – Relationship intentions 13:55 – Safer sex practices A sample STARS conversation: 16:48 – Introducing Ray 17:51– STI Status 20:35 – Turn Ons and avoids 27:56 – Relationship intentions (for the sake of clarity – this conversation was taped last summer, prior to entering a monogamous relationship with my current partner who you have heard me references in episodes that were taped more recently) 31:16 – Safer sex practices You can find much more about the STARS method at www.maketimeforthetalk.com. You can find Dr. Evelin Dacker at www.EvelinDacker.com.
