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"Gay is not one way." In this episode, Derek is joined by good friend Quinton Bond who is here to openly to discuss different gay lifestyles. Derek opens up about even stereotyping another gay man as someone he would never think was gay.  Quinton opens up about being taught growing up to be a man. As a man he feels regardless of his sexuality his values stayed the same about being a gentlemen. He shares being molested at a young age and his first sexual experience being with a male at age 5. This experience made him feel numb and confused about his sexuality.  Quinton couldn't say whether or not the abuse is what led to his his sexual preference but he knew by 13 yrs old he was different and had a name for it by 16yrs old. His vulnerability in this episode about his journey and owning and becoming comfortable with who he was at a young age was the key to avoiding some of the trauma others have experienced. This episode truly helps acknowledge that "being gay" is not one way. We can all agree that Derek and Quinton help us understand you can not judge a man by his exterior.